Talk First Family® | Family Activities

Growing Up—What Changes?

Suggested Age: 8–12

Time: 10–15 minutes

1. WHY TRY THIS?

As children grow, their bodies change. Some changes happen gradually, while others appear during puberty. Children often wonder whether their experiences are normal or why friends develop differently.

This activity helps parents learn what their children already understand about growing up and what questions they may have.

The goal is connection, understanding, and conversation.

2. WHAT YOU NEED

Nothing special—just a few minutes together. Paper and pencils are optional.

3. TRY THIS TOGETHER

Parent Introduction

"When I was growing up, I noticed changes in my body and sometimes wondered what was normal. Let's talk about some changes that happen as kids grow older."

Step 1 — What Changes?

Ask your child:

"What changes happen to girls' bodies as they grow up?"

"What changes happen to boys' bodies as they grow up?"

Listen to what your child already knows.

Step 2 — Explore Growing Up

If helpful, talk about common changes:

• Growing taller and changes in body shape.
• Body hair, sweating, and skin changes.
• Breast development and menstruation.
• Voice changes and growth of the penis and testicles.
• Changing emotions and wanting more privacy.

Explain that these changes do not happen to everyone at the same age or in the same way.

Step 3 — Share Your Experience

Parents can share a simple memory:

"When I was your age, I remember wondering why some kids were growing faster than others."

Then ask:

"Is there anything about growing up that you've wondered about?"

Remind your child:

"Everybody grows and develops at their own pace. You can always ask me questions about your body."

Child Choice

Your child can share what they know, ask questions, or choose to talk another time.

This activity is not a test.

4. CONSIDER PAUSE ✶ — THEN TALK

If something your child says catches your attention:

Pause ✶ — "Something caught your attention. Notice it. Do nothing yet."

Then, if helpful, use:

👀 Take a Look — "What's happening here?"

You might ask:

• "What changes have you noticed as kids grow older?"
• "What questions do you have about puberty or growing up?"
• "Is there anything you'd like us to learn more about together?"

One question may be enough. Sometimes Pause alone is enough.

5. RESOURCES

For parents who want additional information, I recommend these two resources:

6. ASK GRANNY

Have a question about this activity, something your child shared, or how to continue the conversation? Ask Granny.
Select the blue Ask Granny button in the bottom-right corner of this page.
Granny can help you understand the topic, find age-appropriate words for your next conversation, and explore helpful Talk First Family® resources.
Granny is designed for parents and caregivers, not for independent use by children.

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